The priming compound is usually not inserted by hand, but rather by a mechanically operated rod that is dipped in the wet priming compound, then dipped into the cup. Check out a few of the videos on the internet.
Primer manufacturers often have different names for their normal and match primers, for example CCI has CCI200 and BR2. These are made to the same specs, but the BR2 versions are advertised as being more consistent. Some people are willing to pay lots of extra R for the BR2 versions. So they actually believe the variations to be smaller. Some tests do indeed show smaller ES values, but not always. There are other variables at play here too.
Taking the mass of the priming compound as a percentage of the total primer, it is quite small. Something like 2gn of compound in a 10gn primer. Will any weighed difference be attributable to the compound or to the cup and anvil?
Do not forget the sealant and paper layers on top of the priming compound. They will also affect the weight, but not the energy value.
I think just find what works best for you and try to stick to that.